Are we not adults? Can we not just learn how to deal with drama? I include myself in this. The internet is a cesspool of drama! And I am tired of it! I think most of our lives are busy enough and taxing enough without inviting into our inner psyches so much of the world's problems and turmoil.
Here are a few ideas that I have curated over the years, and have curated recently from the internet, about minimizing drama when it presents itself in your life.
- Ask yourself if this event will matter in five years. If it won't, then don't worry about it. If you're not sure if it will matter five years from now, it probably won't. If you think it will matter a year from now, read #2.
- Stop trying to react to everything. Sometimes observing is enough. Give yourself a break from reacting to everything, and let things happen without an inner or outward reaction from you. Let the event settle before writing your diatribe on social media. Ponder on it, give it a second. Anchor yourself in what is and not on what might be or what should be or anything else before selecting your course of action (for more on this, please read this book by my friend: Count it all Joy).
- Think of this quote from Mother Teresa (aptly quoted by Queen Elizabeth for the 2016 Christmas message [to which I say, "God save the Queen!"]), "Not everyone can do great things. But we can all do small things with great love." Be kind and loving in whatever way you can. If drama presents itself as a worldwide issue, think of what little things you can do among your circle of influence to alleviate the problem. And if drama presents itself in your personal life, think about small things with great love that can be done.
- Write down your frustrations about the drama in a journal. I used to be really good at this (working on it!!), and it helped me channel my energies into a space where I could be completely honest with myself. It also releases pent up thoughts and feelings. And it's better than talking to somebody about it because your journal won't spout back at you ideas for "fixing things" --- your journal just listens. You also don't run the risk of being judged by whoever your friend is who listens to you. Let your journal listen to you.
And that, friends, is how to tackle this Drama Llama that looms so strongly before us.
Jeffrey R. Holland once wrote, “In the gospel of Jesus Christ you have help from both sides of the veil." (“For Times of Trouble,” New Era, October 1980, 15.)